Attracting Terrific People by Lillian Glass

Attracting Terrific People: How to find-and keep- the people who bring your life joy by Lillian Glass

Firnando Chau Review


Table of Content
Introduction
1. Why You Need and Deserve Terrific People in Your Life
2. Who Are the Terrific People in Your Life?
3. Twenty Traits and Types of Terrific People
4. Finding and Attracting Terrific People to Fill Your Life
5. Becoming That Terrific Person to Yourself
6. Becoming That Terrific Person to Others
7. When Terrific People Disappoint You
8. There Are Lots of Terrific People in the World!
About the Author
Index
Where to Get More Information


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1. Why You Need and Deserve Terrific People in Your Life

1.1. The World Is Full of Terrific People

1.2. Why You Need Terrific People in Your Life

1.3. Why Have You Sabotaged Yourself in the Past by Pushing Terrific People Out of Your Life?

1.4. People Deserve Terrific People in Their Lives, but for Some It's Overwhelming

1.5. Warning Signs of Unworthiness

1.6. Steps to Keep Yourself from Sabotaging Your Precious Relationships

1.7. Overcoming Your Fears

1.8. You Deserve the Best That People Have to Offer

1.9. What Knowing Terrific People Can Do for You

2. Who Are the Terrific People in Your Life?

2.1. Terrific People Quiz

2.2. What Your Responses Mean 

2.3. Who Is Terrific for You?

2.4. Personality Characteristics of Terrific People

2.5. The "Associative Property" of Terrific People Meeting Other Terrific People

2.6. The Spiral of Terrific People - People Helping Other People

2.7. "In-Visioning" the Terrific People You Would Like to Have in Your Life

2.8. Where Do You Find Terrific People?

3. Twenty Traits and Types of Terrific People

1. The Feel-Gooders

2. The You, You, and You Anti-Narcissists

3. The Generous Givers

4. The Non-Judgers

5. The Good Mouthers

6. The Self-Respecters

7. The Class Acts

8. The Honest Abes

9. The Lightened-Ups

10. The Cheerleaders

11. The Completely Conscious

12. The Keep-On-Goers

13. The Emotionators

14. The Win-Winners

15. The Loyalists

16. The Immediate Doers

17. The Calculated-Risk Takers

18. The Non-Victims

19. The Life Livers

20. The Enlisters

3.1. Positive Mood Contagions

3.2. Terrific People as Good-Luck Charms

4. Finding and Attracting Terrific People to Fill Your Life

4.1. Forget the First Four Minutes - It's Now the First Four Seconds

4.2. The Initial Attraction

4.3. Attracting Terrific People with the Outer You

4.4. Attracting Potential Terrific People with a Smile and a Warm Hello

4.5. Attracting Terrific People by the Way You Speak - It's Not What You Say, It's How You Say It!

4.6. Your Body Talks, Too!

4.7. The Art of the Gesture

4.8. Your Handshake Makes an Immediate Impression

4.9. To Touch or Not to Touch? - That Is the Question

4.10. Your Face Speaks 1000 Words

4.11. It's Not Just How You Say It - It's What You Say That Counts!

4.12. Shy People Are Selfish People

4.13. How to Have a Great Conversation: What Do You Say After You've Said Hello?

5. Becoming That Terrific Person to Yourself

5.1. Lies People Tell You.

5.2. Who Are You, Really?

5.3. What Is the Good News About You?

5.4. What Is the Not-So-Good News About You?

5.5. What Can You Change About Yourself to Feel More Terrific?

5.6. Tell Yourself the Good News Every Day

5.7. To Know You Is to Love You

5.8. Really Looking Through the Glass

5.9. Talk Nicely to the Most Terrific Person You Know - You!

5.10. The Power of the Word

5.11. Don't Listen to Negative People - Always Trust Your Guts!

5.12. The Body Never Lies!

5.13. A Victim No More!

5.14. Letting People KNow When They Have Overstepped Their Bounds

5.15. The Minute You See These People, Run the Other Way

5.16. Dealing with the Pain of Rejection Without Self-Destructing

5.17. Throw Away Your Burdens and Count Your Blessings

5.18. Accept the Help - You Deserve It

6. Becoming That Terrific Person to Others

6.1. Reciprocity Is the Key to Bring a Terrific Person

6.2. When Good Things Happen to Good People

6.3. Are You a Terrific Person to Someone?

6.4. The Ten Guidelines to Being Terrific to Others

7. When Terrific People Disappoint You

7.1. Dealing With Disillusionment

7.2. What Causes Terrific People to Turn Toxic?

7.3. The One-Two-Three Test

7.4. Ending the Once-Terrific Relationship

7.5. Recovering When Terrific Relationships End

7.6. Rekindling a Former Terrific Relationship That Once Turned Sour

8. There Are Lots of Terrific People in the World!

8.1. A Terrific Child
8.2. A Terrific Service Person
8.3. A Terrific Health Professional
8.4. Terrific Neighbors
8.5. A Terrific Lover
8.6. Terrific Parents
8.7. Terrific Physically Challenged People
8.8. Terrific Animals


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The Leader Within by Drea Zigarmi, Ken Blanchard, Michael O'Connor, and Carl Edeburn

The Leader Within: Learning Enough About Yourself to Lead Others by Drea Zigarmi, Ken Blanchard, Michael O'Connor, and Carl Edeburn

My version of the book, 2007, Hardcover, FT Prentice-Hall, ISBN 978-0131-470255

Firnando Chau Review

The contents of this book are in the following order:-
Preface
Acknowledgments
Chapter One: Leaders and Change
Chapter Two: Personality and Context
Chapter Three: Preference and Disposition
Chapter Four: Beliefs and Points of View
Chapter Five: Perceptions and Persona
Chapter Six: Behaviors and Situations
Chapter Seven: Vision and Learning
Bibliography
Index

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Amazon.com Review

About the Book
 
The first step towards becoming an outstanding leader: know yourself. This book will help you understand yourself as a leader... so you can change, grow, and become powerfully more effective. Authored by four world-renowned leadership experts, including the legendary Ken Blanchard, it draws on an extraordinary seven-year research study on how successful corporate executives exert influence. The authors begin by presenting self-change as your must urgent leadership challenge, and showing how your values and personality govern your actions, even when you don't realize it. You'll examine the inner self you're currently bringing to your "moments of influence," discovering how your disposition, values, beliefs, and persona are contributing right now to your success -- or failure. Throughout, the authors present proven, values-based approaches to leadership in both group settings and one-to-one contexts.
 
From the Back Cover

Discover the leader inside you!
* Become the leader you've always wanted to be
* Understand how you behave at your key 'moments of influence'
* Reinvent your approach for better results -- and happier people
* Build more effective teams and organizations, without compromising your values
* Co-authored by Ken Blanchard, co-author of The One Minute Manager

If you lead... if you intend to lead... if you work with leaders... you need this book.
 
* You need it to discover why...
...self-change is your most urgent leadership challenge
...your values, beliefs, and personality are driving your success -- or your failure -- even when you don't realize it

* You need it to discover how to...
... lead brilliantly, in ways that reflect your own values and personality
... connect in both group settings and one-to-one contexts
... liberate personal traits and energies you never knew you had
... rekindle your team's spirit -- and build stronger, more effective, more joyful organizations.

* Liberate the outstanding leader inside you -- with The Leader Within.

The Last Chance Millionaire: It's Not Too Late to Become Wealthy by Douglas R. Andrew

• Hardcover: 368 pages
• Publisher: Business Plus (June 12, 2007)
• ISBN-10: 0446580538
• ASIN: B0029LHX8U

From Publishers Weekly

Baby boomers, take note: traditional retirement savings wisdom won't yield you enough to live on in your golden years, warns financial adviser Andrews (Missed Fortune, etc.). Today's boomers are facing retirement with savings of (on average) an inadequate $50K and are relying on outdated financial strategies to carry them through. In a clear, firm tone, Andrews explains that socking away all your savings in a 401(k), paying off your mortgage and buying a vacation home only after your primary home is paid off are all worn-out Depression era truisms that no longer apply when boomers may live 20 or even 30 years past retirement age. Andrews's last-minute catch-up plan for safely generating a livable income within the years, not decades, left until retirement mixes familiar wisdom—take advantage of compound interest, tax-favored growth and safe, reliable leverage, and don't depend on Social Security—with a refreshingly down-to-earth plan for becoming a Thriver, whose money is busily working away, tax-free or tax-reduced to provide stability and enjoyment in the golden years. This is no bathtub reading—the text is heavy on charts and graphs and percentages—but the conversational, sympathetic voice serves as a wakeup call for boomers without enough saved. (June)
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.

Review

A marvellous fantasy trip' Frank Herbert 'If Harry Potter has given you a thirst for fantasy and you have not discovered the magic of Terry Brooks, you are in for a treat' ROCKY MOUNTAIN NEWS 'Confirms Terry's place at the head of the fantasy world' Philip Pullman

Product Description

According to Doug Andrew, the bestselling author of Missed Fortune 101, too many Americans are being led down the wrong financial path. Even worse, many Baby Boomers find themselves panicking --fearful that they've already fallen too far behind to ever catch up. In this indispensable and eye-opening guide, Andrew provides fresh new pathways to reaching financial security -- pathways that all Americans need to consider now.

Centering on his Three Miracles of Wealth Accumulation: the Miracle of Compound Interest, the Miracle of Tax-Favored Accumulation, and the Miracle of Positive, Safe Leverage, Andrew explodes many of the commonly-held myths about 401ks, pensions, paying down one's mortgage, and other forms of retirement planning. Along the way, Andrew offers unique strategies that will not only increase your wealth, but also help readers enjoy their best years while securing their future.

About the Author

Douglas R. Andrew is the owner and president of Paramount Financial Services, Inc., a comprehensive personal and business financial planning firm. An award-winning speaker, he does dozens of seminars on personal finance each year allover the country. He lives in Salt Lake City, Utah.

From AudioFile

Andrew aims his message at Baby Boomers, who he believes are using timeworn methods of saving for retirement and will fall far short of the amount of money they will need. He reads his own work in a pedantic and cumbersome style that may not appeal to those used to more upbeat presentations. He moves through the chapters in a deliberate and precise manner that makes listeners feel every word, which can often be overwhelming in a multi-disc volume. Andrews passion for the subject is stifled by overdramatization of certain statements at the expense of others. Numerous repetitions of facts seem redundant and distracting. He does enunciate well and speak clearly, a style that may appeal to listeners who often need to rewind. M.R. © AudioFile 2007, Portland, Maine-- Copyright © AudioFile, Portland, Maine

The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick) by Seth Godin

About the Book
Hardcover: 96 pages
Publisher: Portfolio Hardcover (May 10, 2007)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1591841666
ISBN-13: 978-1591841661


Firnando Chau Review


From Publishers Weekly


Yet another easily digestible social marketplace commentary from the blogger/author who penned Purple Cow and Small is the New Big, Godin prescribes a cleverly counter-intuitive way to approach one's potential for success. Smart, honest, and refreshingly free of self-help posturing, this primer on winning-through-quitting is at once motivational and comically indifferent, making the lofty goal of "becoming the best in the world" an achievable proposition-all you need is to "start doing some quitting." The secret to "strategic quitting" is seeking, understanding and embracing "the Dip," "the long slog between starting and mastery" in which those without the determination or will find themselves burning out. As such, Godin demonstrates how to identify and quit your "Cul-de-Sac" and "Cliff" situations, in which no amount of work will lead to success. Godin provides tips for finding your Dip, taking advantage of it and becoming one of the few (inevitably valuable) players to emerge on the other side; he also provides guidelines for quitting with confidence. Quick, hilarious and happily irreverent, Godin's truth-that "we fail when we get distracted by tasks we don't have the guts to quit"-makes excellent sense of an often-difficult career move. 
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.


About the Book


The old saying is wrong-winners do quit, and quitters do win. 


Every new project (or job, or hobby, or company) starts out exciting and fun. Then it gets harder and less fun, until it hits a low point-really hard, and not much fun at all. 


And then you find yourself asking if the goal is even worth the hassle. Maybe you're in a Dip-a temporary setback that will get better if you keep pushing. But maybe it's really a Cul-de-Sac, which will never get better, no matter how hard you try. 


According to bestselling author Seth Godin, what really sets superstars apart from everyone else is the ability to escape dead ends quickly, while staying focused and motivated when it really counts. 


Winners quit fast, quit often, and quit without guilt-until they commit to beating the right Dip for the right reasons. In fact, winners seek out the Dip. They realize that the bigger the barrier, the bigger the reward for getting past it. If you can become number one in your niche, you'll get more than your fair share of profits, glory, and long-term security. 


Losers, on the other hand, fall into two basic traps. Either they fail to stick out the Dip-they get to the moment of truth and then give up-or they never even find the right Dip to conquer. 


Whether you're a graphic designer, a sales rep, an athlete, or an aspiring CEO, this fun little book will help you figure out if you're in a Dip that's worthy of your time, effort, and talents. If you are, The Dip will inspire you to hang tough. If not, it will help you find the courage to quit-so you can be number one at something else. 


Seth Godin doesn't claim to have all the answers. But he will teach you how to ask the right questions.

Leadership Secrets of Attila the Hun

• Paperback: 110 pages
• Publisher: Business Plus (February 1, 1990)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0446391069
• ISBN-13: 978-0446391061

• Review

  H. Ross Perot ...The principles are timeless. -- Review --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

  Product Description

  Roberts's sensational New York Times bestseller shows how the legendary military commander's principles of leadership can be applied to contemporary business situations.

  About the Author

  Wess Roberts, Ph.D. is the international best-selling author of Leadership Secrets of Attila the Hun, Straight A's Never Made Anybody Rich, and Victory Secrets of Attila the Hun. 
  
  
  Dr. Roberts has held senior management positions at major insurance and financial service companies on the West Coast. He served as a major in the U.S. Army where he was assigned for three years to the U.S. Army Combat Arms Training Board. As an adjunct professor at Southern Utah University, Utah State University, and Nova University, Dr. Roberts has taught undergraduate and graduate courses in business, education and psychology. He currently makes his home in Utah, where he writes and lectures on a variety of business and leadership topics.

The Soul of the Corporation: How to Manage the Identiy of Your Company by Hamid Bouchikhi & John R. Kimberly

The Soul of the Corporation: How to Manage the Identiy of Your Company by Hamid Bouchikhi & John R. Kimberly

Firnando Chau Review



The Soul of the Corporation: How to manage the identity of your company by Hamid Bouchikhi and John R. Kimberly (Sep 30, 2007)


Hardcover: 256 pages
Publisher: Pearson Prentice Hall; 1 edition (September 30, 2007)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0131857266
ISBN-13: 978-0131857261


From the Back Cover


“As Emerson said that an institution is the ‘extended shadow’ of a person, Bouchikhi and Kimberly fluidly blend the personal and enterprise-wide perspectives of professional identity to yield both powerful insights and priceless practical tools. Most management books look at the decision maker or at the decision making context. This important book embraces both while eschewing the clichés of corporate culture guidebooks. Anchored in decades of research, compelling current business sagas, and familiar everyday challenges, The Soul of the Corporation uniquely conveys the inextricably intertwined nature of the symbolic and substantive roles of leadership.”
Jeffrey Sonnenfeld, Senior Associate Dean, Lester Crown Professor of Management, Yale School of Management, and coauthor of Firing Back: How Great Leaders Rebound from Career Disasters

“In a world of continuous flux and accelerating change, one’s sense of identity becomes more crucial than ever for companies, no less than individuals. In The Soul of the Corporation, Bouchikhi and Kimberly take us on a journey into the psychological world of corporate identity and explore the importance of companies knowing who they are, both in relation to their inner-workings and the outside world. This trailblazing book will prove invaluable to management in their quest to define the essence of their corporate identity.”
Jeremy Rifkin, President of the Foundation on Economic Trends in Washington, author of The End of Work, The Age of Access, and The Hydrogen Economy

“Identity is one of the most fundamental yet least understood determinants of organizational outcomes. Bouchikhi and Kimberly’s book provides a fresh and provocative point of view of the determinants of organizational identity as well as research-based insights on how to shift identity over time. This book will be important to both scholars of organizational evolution as well as managers involved in leading change.”
Michael Tushman, Paul R. Lawrence Class of 1942 Professor of Business at the Harvard Business School

“A strong Identity is a major asset for a firm, as this book so convincingly illustrates. To manage the Identity (the I*Dimension) is perhaps the most critical top leadership function today. The authors show us how to do this–a must read!”
Dr. Peter Lorange, IMD President, The Nestlé Professor

Understand, Control, and Leverage Your Company’s #1 Asset: Its Unique Identity

We live in a new Age of Identity, in which your employees, customers, investors, and
other stakeholders care about who you really are. More than ever, your company’s identity will shape the results it can achieve. The Soul of the Corporation will help you clearly understand your company’s identity, and then take control of it and leverage
it for long-term adaptation and success.

Drawing on real-life stories from the world’s most prominent companies, the authors show how identity can be an extraordinarily valuable asset–and how, if not properly managed, it can become a huge liability. Discover how your firm’s identity is related to–and different from–its organizational culture, brand positioning, and reputation. Learn how to diagnose and manage the often unconscious shared beliefs that constitute your company’s soul…how to face the enormous identity challenges that arise in mergers, alliances, spin-offs, and the creation of new brands…and above all, how to lead and inspire in this new Age of Identity.

• Master your company’s “I*Dimension”
New tools for leveraging identity for competitive advantage

• Manage the tensions that shape your company’s identity
Convergent vs. divergent, internal vs. external, designed vs. emergent, sameness vs. uniqueness

• Overcome the dark, dysfunctional side of identity
Minimize narcissism, conflict, drift, and fragmentation

• Protect what’s precious, change what needs to change
Managing identity through M&As, spin-offs, alliances, and unrelenting change


About the Authors


Dr. Hamid Bouchikhi is a professor of management and entrepreneurship at ESSEC, a leading European business school based in France. He is interested primarily in the human side of organizations and draws heavily on the social sciences. A native of Morocco who has crossed many geographical and mental borders and collaborated with firms from many parts of the world, Dr. Bouchikhi has developed a sharp awareness of identity and its influence on the conduct of business.


Dr. Bouchikhi’s current research topics are in organization theory, corporate entrepreneurship, and managerial innovation, where he has authored and coauthored several books and articles in French and English. His English works have appeared in the MIT Sloan Management Review, Harvard Business Review, Organization Science, Organization Studies, Organization, and the European Business Forum.


Dr. Bouchikhi has been involved with several international public and private-sector organizations through consulting assignments, management development programs, and research projects. He is the founder and academic director of ESSEC Ventures–a center providing training, coaching, logistical support, and seed financing to nascent entrepreneurs in the ESSEC Business School community.


Dr. Bouchikhi has been a visiting professor at Keio University (Tokyo), at the Wharton School (Philadelphia), and at the University of Putra Malaysia (Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia).

Dr. John R. Kimberly is the Henry Bower Professor and Professor of Management, Health Care Systems, and Sociology at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania and Visiting Professor at INSEAD in Fontainebleau, France. He is also Executive Director of Wharton’s Global Alliance with INSEAD.


Dr. Kimberly has served as organizational consultant in several organizations in the public and private sectors: the Directorate for Science, Technology, and Industry, and the Directorate for Scientific Affairs of the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development in Paris, France; the Office of Technology Assessment of the U.S. Congress; the Association of American Medical Colleges, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation; and the Institute of Medicine of the National Academy of Science. His recent professional leadership activities include membership on the editorial boards of the Academy of Management Review, the British Journal of Management, and M@n@gement. He is the codirector, with Dr. A. Thomas McLellan, of the Center for the Organization and Management of Addiction Treatment, a joint venture between the Treatment Research Institute and the Wharton School that focuses on the business of addiction treatment.


Dr. Kimberly’s research areas include organizational design, organizational change, institutional creation, health policy, and managerial innovation. His current projects deal with the content and consequences of firm identity, competition and collaboration among health-care organizations in local markets, the structure and mobility of managerial elites, and competition and change in business education. His most recent book, edited with Hubert Gatignon, was The INSEAD-Wharton Alliance on Globalizing: Strategies for Building Successful Global Businesses, published in 2004 by the Cambridge University Press.


He holds a Ph.D. from Cornell University and a BA from Yale University. His previous appointments were at Cornell University, the University of Illinois, and Yale University. He has held visiting appointments at Ecole Polytechnique, France; University of Paris-Dauphine; and Ecole Superieure en Sciences Economiques et Commerciales (ESSEC), Paris. From 1998 to 2002 he was also the Novartis Professor of Healthcare Management, INSEAD, and was responsible for designing and launching INSEAD’s Healthcare Management Initiative. He is currently completing a book on the global diffusion of managerial innovation with Professors Gerard de Pouvourville at ESSEC and Tom D’Aunno at INSEAD.