How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie (Nov 3, 2009)

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Hardcover: 320 pages
Publisher: Simon & Schuster; Reissue edition (November 3, 2009)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1439167346
ISBN-13: 978-1439167342


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This grandfather of all people-skills books was first published in 1937. It was an overnight hit, eventually selling 15 million copies. How to Win Friends and Influence People is just as useful today as it was when it was first published, because Dale Carnegie had an understanding of human nature that will never be outdated. Financial success, Carnegie believed, is due 15 percent to professional knowledge and 85 percent to "the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership, and to arouse enthusiasm among people." He teaches these skills through underlying principles of dealing with people so that they feel important and appreciated. He also emphasizes fundamental techniques for handling people without making them feel manipulated. Carnegie says you can make someone want to do what you want them to by seeing the situation from the other person's point of view and "arousing in the other person an eager want." You learn how to make people like you, win people over to your way of thinking, and change people without causing offense or arousing resentment. For instance, "let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers," and "talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person." Carnegie illustrates his points with anecdotes of historical figures, leaders of the business world, and everyday folks. --Joan Price --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Review
From an era when 'self-help' books had genuine depth, Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" has influenced the world. No book in the self-help category matters more than this one.


Learning to relate to people in the ways Carnegie instructs will help you personally as well as professionally.


This book is a classic because Carnegie teaches timeless truths in timeless ways.


About the Book


How to Win Friends and Influence People is the first, and still the finest, book of its kind. One of the best-known motivational books in history, Dale Carnegie's groundbreaking work has sold millions of copies, has been translated into almost every known written language, and has helped countless people succeed in both their business and personal lives.
First published in 1937, Carnegie's advice has remained relevant for generations because he addresses timeless questions about the fine art of getting along with people: How can you make people like you instantly? How can you persuade people to agree with you? How can you speak frankly to people without giving offense? The ability to read others and successfully navigate any social situation is critically important to those who want to get a job, keep a job, or simply expand their social network.


The core principles of this book, originally written as a practical, working handbook on human relations, are proven effective. Carnegie explains the fundamentals of handling people with a positive approach; how to make people like you and want to help you; how to win people to your way of thinking without conflict; and how to be the kind of leader who inspires quality work, increased productivity, and high morale.


As Carnegie explains, the majority of our success in life depends on our ability to communicate and manage personal relationships effectively, whether at home or at work. How to Win Friends and Influence People will help you discover and develop the people skills you need to live well and prosper.


About the Author


Dale Carnegie (1888-1955) described himself as a "simple country boy" from Missouri but was also a pioneer of the self-improvement genre. Since the 1936 publication of his first book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, he has touched millions of readers and his classic works continue to impact lives to this day.

Conquering Fear: Living Boldly in an Uncertain World by Harold S Kushner

Hardcover: 173 pages

Publisher: Knopf (October 6, 2009)

Language: English

ISBN-10: 0307266648

ISBN-13: 978-0307266644

Contents
Chapter 1 The Eleventh Commandment: Don't Be Afraid
Chapter 2 The Terror That Comes in the Darkness: The Fear of Terrorism
Chapter 3 God Was Not in the Hurricane: The Fear of Natural Disaster
Chapter 4 Suddenly Nothing Is the Same: The Fear of Rapid Change
Chapter 5 A World Without People: The Fear That Humanity Will Destroy Itself
Chapter 6 Loss of Job, Loss of Love: The Fear of Rejection
Chapter 7 Can Seventy Be the New Fifty: The Fear of Growing Old
Chapter 8 The World Is A Narrow Bridge: The Fear of  Death
Chapter 9 Conquering Fear: Hope and Courage Are the Will of God



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A Q&A with Harold S. Kushner 


Question: You have written about so many of the issues that every one of us will confront at some point in life--loss, grief, disappointment. When and why did you decide to write a book about fear?


Harold S. Kushner: For some time, I’ve been meeting people who are less happy than they have a right to be because they are afraid--afraid of losing their job, afraid that something will happen to someone in their family, afraid of another terrorist attack. You can’t enjoy life when you feel that way. Now, I can’t guarantee that none of those things will happen, but I think I can show people how to live with those concerns but not let them drain the joy from their lives.


Question: You began working on this book before the events of this past year and the collapse of the economy. Certainly these are times in which people are more fearful than ever and face new challenges in their daily lives. Do you think the nature of our fears has changed, or that these times just magnify the fears we already had?


Harold S. Kushner: More than anything else, we’ve always worried about something terrible happening to us or to our world. What has changed is, with improved communication and 24-hour news channels, we hear about more of such things happening somewhere, not necessarily anywhere close to us, and we worry. As one doctor put it, "anthrax is not contagious, but fear of anthrax is." And of course with what has been happening with the economy, we have more things to worry about. People are worried about losing their jobs, losing their homes, losing their retirement savings. I worry that there is a tipping point beyond which we find ourselves worried about so many things that it virtually changes our personality. We become fearful, timid, helpless people, afraid of trying anything or doing anything at all.


Question: Your book is titled Conquering Fear--not accepting fear or overcoming fear or coping with fear. Why did you choose that very powerful word for your title?


Harold S. Kushner: If it were easy to lower our level of apprehension, we would all do it. But I don’t think it should be our goal to eliminate fear. There are things we should be afraid of--crime, dangers to our health, people looking to cheat us. It would be foolhardy to go through life so confident that nothing bad will ever happen to us because we’re good people. But there is a crucial difference between concern which is good and fear which can be debilitating. We don’t want to let our lives be defined by the things we’re afraid of. I remember the Israeli man whose daughter was badly burned in a terrorist incident, saying "there are worse things in life than dying, and one of them is to live every minute of your life in fear." Our goal should be to make fear our servant rather than our master.


Question: You write, "I resolve not to let my fears of what might happen prevent me from anticipating with pleasure what I hope will happen." How are fear and hope linked?


Harold S. Kushner: Both are ways of anticipating a future that hasn’t happened yet. One of them, fear, anticipates the worst happening; the other, hope, looks forward to something better. It seems to me that anticipating the worst is likely to paralyze and discourage us, leaving us feeling helpless, while envisioning the more favorable outcome may give us the psychological energy to do the things we have to do to bring it about.


Question: We know what fear does to us emotionally, but what does fear do to us physically?


Harold S. Kushner: What affects us emotionally will inevitably have physical consequences. Stress makes us tense. We don’t sleep as well, we feel tired and we are tempted to overeat. We focus more on ourselves and distance ourselves from other people. We are prone to misunderstand other people’s words and actions.


Question: What made you decide to devote a chapter to fear of rapid change?


Harold S. Kushner: As a man in late middle age, I feel the effect of having been left behind by the rate of change in society every time I have to ask my grandson to program my cell phone or straighten out my computer. I’m not embarrassed to ask for help, but I would be more comfortable in a world where knowledge flowed from older people to younger ones rather than the other way around. I’m also concerned that the sense of disorientation so many people feel at the unprecedented rate of change is feeding into the rise of intolerance and religious fundamentalism and resistance to necessary changes in religion and society.


From Publishers Weekly


Soon after his international bestsellerWhenBad Things Happen to Good People appeared in 1981, Kushner stopped being a congregational rabbi in order to devote full-time to writing and lecturing. Conquering Fear, his 12th book, is the latest result of this concentration. It is a popular theology primer designed to help readers grapple with common problems of suffering, significance, disappointments, guilt, forgiveness and conscience. Although traditional Jews object to Kushner's view of suffering as reflecting God's limited capacity to control the hazards of life, his books have won general acclaim. The fears that Kushner tackles include terrorism, natural disasters, rejection, growing old and death, among others. His recommendations for coping require trust, religion, hope, courage, faith; he also urges living with purpose and differentiating between God and nature. Some readers may find Kushner's prescriptions to be inspiring; others will see them as banal platitudes. A useful idea he offers about fear of terrorism is be alert but not frightened, vigilant but not paranoid.Perhaps his least helpful advice is about the fear of death: The most important thing to remember is not to be afraid. (Oct.) 
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About the Book


From the best-selling author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People, an illuminating book about fear—and what we can do to overcome it.


An inescapable component of our lives, fear comes in many guises: fear of unemployment; fear of aging, illness, losing beauty; fear of a terrorist attack or natural disaster. In uncertain times, coping with these fears can be especially challenging, but in this indispensable, hopeful book, Harold S. Kushner teaches us to confront, master, and even embrace fear for a more fulfilling life.


Drawing on the teachings of religious and secular literature and on the true stories of people who have faced their fears, Kushner helps us to see that fear can present us with extraordinary opportunities—to connect with our emotions, rethink our values, and change our lives, and the world, for the better. For those who fear helplessness, he suggests empowerment: through prayer, service, and education. For those who fear for mankind’s future, he insists on hope and pragmatic measures, such as working to protect the environment. For those who fear death, he proposes life—lived boldly and purposefully.


In Conquering Fear, we are again inspired by Harold S. Kushner’s wisdom, at once deeply spiritual and eminently practical.


About the Author


Harold S. Kushner is rabbi laureate of Temple Israel in Natick, Massachusetts, where he lives. His classic work, When Bad Things Happen to Good People, was an international best seller. He was honored by the Christophers, a Roman Catholic organization, as one of the fifty people who have made the world a better place in the last half century, and by the national organization Religion in American Life as clergyman of the year in 1999.

Stress for Success: Jim Loehr's Program for Transforming Stress into Energy at Work by James E. Loehr

• Hardcover: 260 pages
• Publisher: Crown Business; 1st edition (May 13, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0812926757
• ISBN-13: 978-0812926750
• Product Dimensions: 9.3 x 6.4 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds

Amazon.com Review

Stress for Success: Jim Loehr's Program for Transforming Stress into Positive Energy at Work, by James E. Loehr, expands upon the author's 20 years of experience in preparing high-level executives and world-class athletes for the "stress of competition." It is built upon his contrarian contention that stress does not necessarily inhibit productivity and effectiveness; in fact, he argues, it can actually prove to be a "powerful stimulus" for personal and professional growth. The secret, he says, is learning how to respond, and he presents a 30-day program (similar to an elite athlete's training regimen) intended to do just that.

Product Description

renowned motivational coach of world-class athletes turns his attention to those in the corporate world. In Stress for Success, business people get a practical, performance-based program to strengthen their physical, mental and emotional resilience. Loehr's 30-day program shows readers how to gradually make the kind of personal lifestyle changes that bring about the kind of high-level performance demanded of people at every level of the corporation.

Pain: The Fifth Vital Sign: The Science and Culture of Why We Hurt by Marni Jackson

Pain: The Fifth Vital Sign: The Science and Culture of Why We Hurt by Marni Jackson


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Pain: The Fifth Vital Sign : The Science and Culture of Why We Hurt - Hardcover (May 28, 2002) by Marni Jackson


About the Book:-
Hardcover: 384 pages
Publisher: Crown; 1st edition (July 9, 2002)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0609603752
ISBN-13: 978-0609603758


From Booklist


Many patients and physicians have wished for a way to quantify pain as we do the other vital signs--blood pressure, temperature, heart beat, and respiration. Jackson explores the history, variety, acknowledgment, and treatment of pain, the fifth vital sign, accessibly and sympathetically, lending the subject personalism by citing her own experiences of pain, which range from a bee sting to her open mouth to anesthetic failure in the middle of a dental operation. She also mines the medical annals, citing such authorities as S. Weir Mitchell and William Livingston, and various literary works. Her interviews with pain experts make lively reading as she queries the likes of Angela Mailis of the Comprehensive Pain Program in Toronto, and Frank Adams, who was found guilty of "medical incompetence and unprofessional conduct" for humanely treating his patients' pain. Finally, her account of the Ninth World Congress on the Study of Pain, in Vienna, graphically depicts the complexity of a large meeting. A book for medical-school and hospital as well as public libraries. William Beatty, Copyright © American Library Association. All rights reserved


Other Reviews


“Jackson is an ideal guide for this exploration. With her personal and personable perspective, she acts as a surrogate for the reader, simplifying complex issues (both philosophical and technical) and humanizing often abstract concepts. Jackson leavens this very serious subject matter with a wicked and subversive sense of humour.” -- Quill and Quire


“One might think there was nothing new to say about pain, but Pain: The Fifth Vital Sign is a work of real originality and freshness, full of insights which seem both startling and obvious.” -- Oliver Sacks, MD


“Jackson’s book is a timely and necessary contribution to this important dialogue.” -- The Globe and Mail


About the Book


Pain. Everyone experiences it, yet we have trouble talking about it and science has only recently begun to understand how it works. Pain: The Fifth Vital Sign is a groundbreaking inquiry into the nature, treatment, and definition of modern pain.


In the United States, there has been a recent campaign to treat pain as the fifth vital sign. Just as temperature, respiration, pulse, and blood pressure, the four traditional vital signs, must be charted, hospitals are now obliged to assess pain in their patients, too. If this indeed happens, it will be nothing less than groundbreaking—making pain far more visible.


But how has it come about that we spend $24 billion a year in North America on Tylenol, Advil, and the rest, and yet chronic pain is on the rise? Why is it that medicine can master intrauterine surgery but it can’t help people with bad backs or migraines? Pain is the number one reason why people go to the doctor’s office, and the number one reason they come away disappointed.


For a long time, pain has been a dark continent, both in the body and in our culture. 


However, medicine is finally learning to evaluate pain as something more than a symptom—a main focus rather than a frustrating side issue for doctors. In the questing and narrative manner of an Oliver Sacks “neurological novel” or Sherwin Nuland’s inquiry into dying, Pain: The Fifth Vital Sign maps this largely unexplored territory through the stories of people who live with pain—from fibromyalgia to phantom limb pain—as well as the words of pioneers of pain research, and the professional experiences of doctors, scientists, and nurses. 


Above all, Pain: The Fifth Vital Sign makes an elusive subject vivid and readable. We all know what pain is. Now it has a voice.


About the Author


MARNI JACKSON is the author of The Mother Zone. She lives in Toronto.

Journey from Anxiety to Freedom: Moving Beyond Panic and Phobias and Learning to Trust Yourself by Mani Feniger

Journey from Anxiety to Freedom: Moving Beyond Panic and Phobias and Learning to Trust Yourself by Mani Feniger.

• Paperback: 320 pages
• Publisher: Three Rivers Press (January 8, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0761508600
• ISBN-13: 978-0761508601

Review

"By revealing her own story, Mani Feniger reminds us that our biggest fear can become our most profound teacher."
?Geneen Roth, bestselling author of When Food is Love -- Review

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"By revealing her own story, Mani Feniger reminds us that our biggest fear can become our most profound teacher."—Geneen Roth, bestselling author of When Food is Love
Your heart pounds, palms sweat, eyes blur, breathing becomes difficult, and you feel dizzy or disoriented. You're in a panic, even though there is no apparent danger. Every year millions of people suffer from anxiety disorders—now the number one mental health issue among women, and second only to substance abuse among men.
In her new book, Journey from Anxiety to Freedom, author Mani Feniger shares her own struggle with panic and phobias, taking the readers on a journey from her terrifying first panic attack, to her renewed confidence driving across bridges, flying in airplanes, and finally taking a long-desired trip abroad. Readers may identify with her story and the vivid descriptions of seven other men and women whose lives were once compromised by fear. Anxiety sufferers will emerge with practical tools and motivation, knowing that others like themselves have faced their worst fears, and now live with peace of mind.
By sharing the inspiring stories of diverse people, including Howard Liebold, M.D., who wrote the foreword, Journey from Anxiety to Freedom calmly walks readers through:
·Uncovering their own anxiety secrets
·Finding their turning points
·Designing their own program for healing
·Practicing exercises and meditations
·Developing skills and attitudes that promote trust

From the Inside Flap

"By revealing her own story, Mani Feniger reminds us that our biggest fear can become our most profound teacher."—Geneen Roth, bestselling author of When Food is Love
Your heart pounds, palms sweat, eyes blur, breathing becomes difficult, and you feel dizzy or disoriented. You're in a panic, even though there is no apparent danger. Every year millions of people suffer from anxiety disorders—now the number one mental health issue among women, and second only to substance abuse among men.
In her new book, Journey from Anxiety to Freedom, author Mani Feniger shares her own struggle with panic and phobias, taking the readers on a journey from her terrifying first panic attack, to her renewed confidence driving across bridges, flying in airplanes, and finally taking a long-desired trip abroad. Readers may identify with her story and the vivid descriptions of seven other men and women whose lives were once compromised by fear. Anxiety sufferers will emerge with practical tools and motivation, knowing that others like themselves have faced their worst fears, and now live with peace of mind.
By sharing the inspiring stories of diverse people, including Howard Liebold, M.D., who wrote the foreword, Journey from Anxiety to Freedom calmly walks readers through:
·Uncovering their own anxiety secrets
·Finding their turning points
·Designing their own program for healing
·Practicing exercises and meditations
·Developing skills and attitudes that promote trust

From the Back Cover

"By revealing her own story, Mani Feniger reminds us that our biggest fear can become our most profound teacher."
—Geneen Roth, bestselling author of When Food is Love

About the Author

Mani Feniger is a certified clinical hypnotherapist and counselor practicing in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is founder of the Anxiety and Phobia Peer Support Network—a toll-free telephone support service. She has taught workshops for over 15 years in the recovery and growth movement and lives in Berkeley, California.

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